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The Shame is Not Yours

The Shame is Not Yours

by Sarah Reidy, LCSW, SEP & Monica Urbaniak

Created for any women who have experienced sexual trauma and are looking for resources and next steps

Designed by Sarah Reidy, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Monica L. Urbaniak, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

6 lessons created specifically for women who’ve experienced sexual trauma

Actionable items designed to incorporate in your everyday life

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36 minutes of video content

8 guided journaling tasks

9 tasks focusing on intentional work

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What You’ll Learn

  1. Defining Sexual Trauma

    Let’s understand trauma. Trauma is your body’s response to an overwhelming event and a natural reaction to a perceived threat. Learn how it’s individualized and the cultural impact on our ability to talk about sexual trauma freely.
  2. Effects of Sexual Trauma

    Trauma impacts our brains and bodies in different ways. Sarah Reidy and Monica Urbaniak explain what occurs when you experience a traumatic situation, understanding your triggers, and how that continues to impact your life.
  3. Surviving Sexual Trauma

    Sarah Reidy and Monica Urbaniak want to remind you that recovering from sexual trauma is possible. In this lesson, you’ll get advice and recommended actions to incorporate healthy coping skills in your day-to-day life to start the journey to recovering.
  4. Working Through Sexual Trauma

    Seeking professional help and choosing a provider can feel overwhelming. In this lesson, learn what the differences are in types of treatment providers and what type of therapy you can expect from each, so you can find the therapist that is a good fit for YOU.
  5. Talking to Partners

    Choosing to disclose or not to disclose your sexual trauma history with your partner(s) is entirely up to you. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to think through this conversation ahead of time so you are better prepared to communicate boundaries and expectations of the conversation to your partner.
  6. Thriving Sexually

    Sexual trauma may be part of your history, but it doesn’t have to define you. In this lesson, understand what a sexual relationship after trauma means and the foundations to include to build a healthy and safe environment for you and your partner.

Healthy Coping Skills

Download a list of Healthy Coping Skills to learn different methods of dealing with your trauma. (This will be helpful in Lesson 3)

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Meet Your Instructors

Sarah Reidy, LCSW, SEP

Sarah Reidy, LCSW, SEP

Sarah is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in both the state of Texas and Colorado. She has completed training in EMDR, Mediation, Motivational Interviewing, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and Mindfulness. Sarah is also a Certified Positive Discipline Educator, a Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner, and a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator. She has a wide scope of experience and has worked with those struggling with substance abuse, and survivors of trauma, including domestic and sexual violence.

Monica Urbaniak

Monica Urbaniak

Monica is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in trauma and sexual assault. For nearly two decades, Monica has worked with survivors of trauma, helping them heal through therapy and support. Monica also provides training and consultation to clinicians, organizations, and community groups towards ensuring that services are client-centered and trauma-informed. Monica is also a Board Approved Supervisor and has held numerous leadership positions in the community.